A Voucher I Won’t Be Giving

Apparently there is a new sort of voucher you can get, a divorce voucher. This article in the Guardian tells you about it. It comes from a law firm offering people advice on the legal implications of divorce.

It made me think though, we contribute to weddings via presents for homes that people tend to already have. There are licences to be obtained and in the CofE atleast costs to be paid if you get married in church, I think. Should we start offering people vouchers towards the cost of their weddings? I’ve watched enough episodes of Don’t Tell The Bride to know there are actually alot of people who would like to get married, but just can’t afford it.

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5 thoughts on “A Voucher I Won’t Be Giving

  1. I don’t watch that programme but isn’t it the case that everyone who wants to get married COULD afford the civil or church costs. What they “can’t afford” (and won’t do without) is the vast amount of nonsense which seems to accompany a wedding in the 21st Century.

  2. agatha beat me to it.

    I hate, hate, hate ‘Don’t Tell The Bride’ with a passion (I watched a few episodes of it in ‘compulsive viewing of something which one finds utterly appalling and repulsive’ mode, before deciding it really wasn’t good for my blood pressure). It’s rarely, if ever, the case that the couples featured can’t afford to get married; they just can’t afford their ‘dream wedding’ (sometimes, truly infuriatingly, referred to by the narrator as a ‘proper’ wedding). Talked about this to a friend who’s getting married in a registry office this month. Apparently the registry office fees are £250. A few couples might not be able to afford a basic wedding, but I suspect that’s a really tiny number. ‘Don’t Tell The Bride’ just encourages the idea that weddings are about consumerism, big parties for one’s friends, the bride’s ‘perfect day’ (i.e. a day with all the right material trappings), etc, rather than about two people making a life-long commitment to each other.

    (My rant has almost fizzled out now I promise.) One final thing which infuriates me / makes me guffaw with laughter about that programme – On a couple of episodes I saw, the blokes tried to organise a church wedding and then got all miffed when the clergy they approached said they wouldn’t perform a church wedding (because – shock, horror – the clergy didn’t know the prospective grooms from Adam and didn’t think a wedding arranged at 3 weeks notice + being filmed by a TV company showed the greatest commitment to the values and ideals of marriage promoted by most churches). One of the prospective grooms then had a whinge about how the most important thing for him was to get married to his fiance, but the second most important thing was to do it in church in front of God …. Well, erm, if that’s the second most important thing, where in importance does the 12 grand being given to you by the TV company come, eh?, ‘cos you currently seem to be prioritising that over getting married in church in a less hasty and more timely fashion.

    (Oh dear. I can rant on quite a bit, if I get steered onto one of my pet peeves. Apologies. *slinks off slightly shame-faced*)

  3. No need to apologise for rant. I think both of you are right about the programme….but it is interesting cheese.

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