There is a saying that when someone dies there is a new star in heaven tonight. Looking up to the sky, with that saying in mind, during the long night when I heard my mum had passed away I saw the most beautiful set of lights and joked that she couldn’t just have something ordinary to mark her passing.
Since then I have found the Perseid meteor shower happens on the 12th August every year. This natural occurance has come to mean something to me. It doesn’t matter where I am each year, or even to a certain extent if I can see them, I know I can use this natural event to mark my mums passing. Taking time to try and locate them, either just before dawn or in the evening, means I consciously stop to pause to remember and to try and find something beautiful to remind me.
This year has been an “interesting year” full of events which I wish she had been here to witness and to support people through. However, in the end I see that perhaps this is the year where I / we have benefitted most from the non-material inheritance she left. This year, as life has tested me in ways it hasn’t before, I have had to use the skills which she taught me in ways I haven’t before. This year I have had to be the true adult she, (and my dad), helped me become having arrived here using the determination and belief in dreams which she showed me were what got you through.
This year I have also started to recognise the gift(s) I have inherited from her which I need to start using more. She was an outstanding woman who I know I remember best by living the fullest life I can using the gifts I have to support my family and the wider community. Thank you mum and as the Orthodox say, may your memory be eternal.